Ya’ll forgive me If this sounds too fucking weird.

But I don’t feel like I got anything to offer friendship or dating wise. Like I feel too boring in a way. As in I got a bit too little and niche interests. Only big one I got right now is art and animation. I play video games a bit rarely, mostly just Luanti’s Mineclonia when I feel like It. Used to collect bootleg video game cartridges too. Also Marxism kind of being kind of a big part of me now since I read a good chunk of theory. Which ofc turns people off so I don’t even bother mentioning It. Though I can nerd out about Sonic and Transformers lore lol.

Not sure If any of this shit makes sense I just kind of feel bad for not trying too hard to socialize and yet feeling lonely again because of my own dumbass. I’m too anxious and scared to go to parties, raves or concerts in general. It’s just all too overwhelming for me. Not to mention that I hate beer because of It’s taste which makes me kind of a prude + I don’t want to do any drugs due to my history of shit health (though I’m ok now). Hell I don’t even talk a ton, I’m pretty timid and quiet irl. Mostly just listening to people. I feel pretty alien around other people.

Idk I just feel frustrated I guess because of my shit decisions making me feel lonely in the long run. I do have one irl friend though who reaches out to me which is good and very cool of them. So at least something.

  • juniper [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    4·
    3 hours ago

    Mostly just listening to people. I feel pretty alien around other people.

    Same here comrade. If I were you I’d start by reaching out to the friend that usually contacts you to hang out. I think they’d appreciate you showing interest in hanging out with them. Baby steps Care-Comrade

    Used to collect bootleg video game cartridges too.

    Also this is cool. I don’t collect them myself but I find bootlegs fascinating (their production, distribution, and the games themselves)

    • cerealkiller [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      2·
      1 hour ago

      Same here comrade. If I were you I’d start by reaching out to the friend that usually contacts you to hang out. I think they’d appreciate you showing interest in hanging out with them. Baby steps

      Thank you so much! I do get out to hang out once or twice a month. Since I’m going to college atm and all.

      Also this is cool. I don’t collect them myself but I find bootlegs fascinating (their production, distribution, and the games themselves)

      I think they’re neat and funny lol. I got like 50 of 'em, 25 being from my elder cousins. I don’t buy as much anymore because It’s the same games on newer overpriced carts. If I can get my hands on the required hardware I’d make a custom one.

  • mrfugu [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    2·
    3 hours ago

    Trying to get outside your bubble and meet new people is hard as fuck, I’m certainly absolutely shit at it so I’m with you on that one.

    What I will say is that any idea that you’re boring or have nothing to offer is not true and a matter of perspective. It sounds like you would be very happy to have a friend who’s also also a Transformers/Sonic nerd and I can guarantee you there’s someone not too far from you who feels the same (unless you live in the middle of nowhere or something).

    The hard part is finding and committing to things you actually want to do. Whether it’s board games or toy shows (I know they have conventions with transformers but I’m not plugged into that scene) or trivia nights, you never know what you might really enjoy unless you keep your ears and heart open to the possibilities. My partner joined the local carnivorous plant society this year and it’s been one of his favorite regular social events so you never know what kinda hyper-specific weirdo human gathering things might be happening that you can be a part of.

    • cerealkiller [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      2·
      1 hour ago

      Yeah, I just can’t get in the right mental headspace at those big social events. Though I did go to some big protests, while they were still based, this year with friends and It went pretty nicely.

      I’d probably find some game night things here. Pretty sure there is a few of them where I’m at. Not really into toys, mostly just characters and lore, though if I do get my hands on a 3D printer I could try making some just to see If I can. Thank you for commenting btw!

  • Salah [ey/em]@hexbear.netEnglish
    7·
    4 hours ago

    Finding community is hard nowadays, but it’s so worth the struggle of finding one. You can find it in many different ways:

    • find a leftist org and become an active member
    • find a local Palestine solidarity group
    • find a local squatter house and join open events If no leftist spaces exist… :
    • join a local sports group
    • find a local game store that organizes events
    • find a local book store that organizes events Etc etc etc

    If you’re awkward at social events go to more. It takes a while to learn to be comfortable. It doesn’t matter if you’re weird, there’s always weird people at social events and if you’re nice then there will always be someone who will enjoy hanging out with you. You can go to 10 events and not really talk to anyone but at some point people will recognise you and talk with you. Try to think of the sort of event you would feel comfortable at.

  • Dort_Owl [they/them, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    8·
    5 hours ago

    I don’t know if it helps because I’m also weird, but the one thing I love about one of my best friends in the world is when he nerds out about his niche interests, even the ones I’m not into.