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Haven’t checked in lately because I’m been working a lot, and relying way too much on drugs and alcohol lately. I won’t get into the drugs part so probably don’t need spoiler tags. I do need to cut back on alcohol though.
I get unsupervised visitation rights for my kids. But I suspect that is so my ex can go do whatever she now does in her free time. She’s been lying to me about almost everything this whole divorce process and I’m probably gonna email her lawyer and add to the list of my “demands” that she stops lying. I’d rather hear a shitty truth than deal with her extremely bad attempts at lying, especially when it involves my kids.
The band project is stuck in schedule hell right now but once we figure that out, we have a guitarist, drummer and now possible other bassist. If this bassist joins on, I’m considering switching to main vocals full time and helping with writing music while I continue to relearn bass. Turns out it’s actually kind of like riding a bike. I’m working on alternate picking since it’s something I never really got down when I played last. For the band’s sound, I wanted to go with older hardcore punk but now I’m thinking about doing closer to early 2000’s hardcore(Hopesfall, Poison the Well, On Broken Wings, The Number Twelve Looks Like You, etc. But I still want the politically charged themes. I’m working on lyrics for a few songs that focus on my own mental health, communist revolution, trans rights, and landback. I’m also working on my fry screams and I think I got them fairly nailed down at this point. I even have my own twist on them for a bit of flair lol.
I think that’s about it. I’m watching The Sopranos for the first time since I told my friend I’d give it a go. Also first time watching Boondocks. I’m enjoying both so far.
Wow your sound and song concepts sound exactly like what I’ve been looking for lately! I wish you the best with your band and I hope we can find a way to safely share your music with some of us whenever it’s ready.
Oh and here is one of my new favorite songs that deals with alcohol use, Drink by Destroy Boys. Maybe it could further inspire your sound and song ideas.
Dang I kind of dig that song.
So we had a chat with me, the guitarist, and the drummer and now they are wanting to do more slam and deathcore stuff but I said from the beginning that I was hoping to hit that early 2000’s hardcore sound. I guess we shall see where this goes. If they wanna go heavier, I don’t have the talent on bass or vocals lol
Glad you liked it!
And I’m with you, it would be nice to hear that 2000s sound come back. Good luck with your dilemma.
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
Glad to hear you’re doing okay, comrade, hope things continue in a better direction for you
Appreciate ya!
Despite all the trouble and hardship you were and still are facing, I am so immensely happy for you finally getting stuff going in a way that makes you feel better. Cutting back on alcohol is tough, and I really hope you can make it work. Being able to see your kids unsupervised is such a huge thing, really glad this worked out. Also, fuck your ex. Both you and your kids deserve better.
Really hope the band project works out and you can go ahead and make music. Would really love to hear some if it weren’t for the doxxing. Wishing you all the success and fun with it! This’ll be good for you, I’m sure of it. Just make sure to take regular breaks, alright? Watching shows seems like a good way of doing it btw, hope the shows remain to your liking. Take care of yourself, I’m proud of you!
Thanks for the inspiring words as always.
I could possibly figure something out to share the band stuff once it’s going without doxxing. Maybe dming? I’d like to be playing out in 6 months or so from the time we first start practicing.
Any time
I’d appreciate it, but don’t rush yourself on my behalf <3