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man i hate going to therapy. all this person does is tell me “wow that sucks” and like. okay. i know that, why am i coming here. i feel like it’s the same as talking to a chatbot
and then people say “oh you just haven’t found the right therapist for you!” but i don’t have the money to shop around for random therapists, i’ve just got the one that’s free with my aid. and i have a feeling that even if i did that, it wouldn’t help, bc i 1. have internalized that telling other people everything about me will make them think i am insane and i will be severely punished for this and 2. most of the traditional talk therapy methods don’t work for me because i am autistic and traumatized. i actually got declined from a (government run) cbt program that probably would have sucked for having too much trauma, but the alternative seems to just be nothing??? lmao
i wanna see if i can switch to animal assisted therapy because i’ll get to pet something then at least
Therapy for autistic people is very lacking and it’s horribly ableist that experts aren’t doing enough research on developing better methods.
I hate therapy too! I had five different therapies on the NHS and they were all so bad that they made me feel worse, because I was stressed out about having to go there every week. If it wasn’t for disability claims and appeals needing as much medical evidence as possible, i wouldn’t have bothered with therapy after realising how awful it is. I don’t understand reddit’s hard-on for therapy, whenever someone has a problem on reddit they’re all “GEt tHeRApy nOw!”
there’s also that meme of “men will literally do x before going to therapy” that pisses me off so much like therapy is a magic cure all and would instantly make a sexist man not sexist or whatever, when in my experience therapists barely push back against shitty beliefs
i guess the alternative is admitting mental health improvement would require material and systemic change and libs reaaally don’t like those words
Mental health improvement at this point would require a complete change in our way of life. Everything about the way we live now destroys mental health.
pretending your question wasn’t rhetorical, i figger cuz they’ve actually never had therapy and their understanding of what it is comes from the media they consume
Therapy is often presented as a method “to fix you if you’re broken”, completely ignoring that people’s material conditions play a huge factor in their mental health. The general understanding of therapy seems to be “If your behavior isn’t the norm, it needs to be made so, and that’s what therapy’s for.” Apart from the fact that being ND, traumatized, etc doesn’t mean you’re broken, it makes it seem like therapy is supposed to “weed out the undesirables” and streamline them.
From what I’ve read on reddit, it seems all of their problems were minor enough that therapy could solve them. Eg liking someone who doesn’t like you back, normal family disagreements, that sort of thing. So they assume therapy is the magic fox for everything while those of us who have serious, unfixable problems know it doesn’t work for everything.
There’s a reason Eliza was such a revelation.
I can’t talk to the efficacy of therapy in general, but if isnt helping you it isnt helping you.
I’ll tell you that even if you have money to find them, finding a good one or one that actually helps you is still extremely difficult. I’ve been through 4 this year alone and only 1 made it past the first session. The one that did basically gave up on me after 1 year. I’m looking at finding a new one now and its just faces in a crowd. I wouldn’t know how to pick any of these people from Adam.