it’s hot. also i’m growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i’m excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?

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  • MoonElf [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    2 days ago

    cw: relationship sadposting

    so it’s been a year since I started HRT and my wife and partner of 25 years has not warmed up to me being a woman. To the contrary the softer I have become the less interested she is in sharing affection. My irl cis friend says that i need to stick a fork in this relationship and when i told the wife she didn’t argue she admitted that it’s gotten harder not easier. But she doesn’t want to split up, we are co parents and i’m the house wife!

    But i’m so alone, i had a gf for a while (poly not cheating) but that fizzled out so i’m gonna just have to try again. I don’t have any family and few friends and im desperate to be squeezed and feel connected. I downloaded a new trans dating app with a dumb name and there’s so many cute girls in my area and while I may never pass and I may be old I’m still cute and i’m super soft now and i like myself so that’s gotta help.

    I don’t really want someone else i want my wife but the spells i tried didn’t work and i can’t really think of anything else to try. Sometimes you make mistakes. The worst part is i feel like i stole something from her by killing off her husband. blah blah blah thanks for letting me vent kiddos. i love you bears so much :)

    • MoonElf [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      9·
      2 days ago

      i woke up today ready to have a tough talk with her and she was cuddling me and being super sweet. I said my piece anyway, not really an ultimatum just communicating that i have sone basic needs that aren’t getting met and that i need to move on very soon if this isn’t going to work out before i age out of the dwindling dating pool. she listened and apologized and admitted that things were hard but she still wanted to be with me and try to make it work. She said the boobs, which i have been extremely fortunate to have the right genetics for, are really tough to deal with and we talked about ways to try and mitigate the issues.

      I remain an optimist because I sure do love that woman.

      probably doomed but i’m still in girls. I got a kiss :)