Wow, that opening paragraph is setting off the “do not let this couple corner you at a party” klaxon.

My wife inhabits a corner of the internet almost entirely disjoint from my own, the woman part. I get youtube recommendations for wood working and speed runs, she sees makeup tips and fashion. Every site or app that’s even a little algorithmic shows this same basic pattern, keyed in part by our demographic data but more by our patterns of attention. This site is no exception, and she regularly sees and forwards essays to me that may as well come from another planet in terms of how far they are away from my algorithmic cluster. Sharing these gendered feeds with each other is a great source of topics for the never-ending conversation we’ve been having since the day we met.