I literally just got fucking scolded and told I have some “accountability for my behavior” or whatever because I replied to someone who was insulting me, defaming my character, and lying about me with “Fuck you, you lying piece of shit.” This isn’t the first time this has happened, and it’s always in these anarchist/“radical” mutual aid groups. I was flabbergasted. It was like I was on some other planet.
Because there’s nobody to deal with conflict resolution or teaching people interpersonal skills. There’s always going to be disagreements in groups and some members will hate each other, especially in large organization. Everyone won’t be friends and won’t always like each other, but a lot of people don’t know how to handle it and don’t know how to handle sharing spaces with others who they disagree with.
At the end of the day mutual aid should be for mutual aid first, not making friends. I don’t care if people hate me or if I don’t like them, as long as we get some work done they can lib out all they want in their free time.
I notice it a lot even here, people are so rigid and stuck to their ways sometimes it feels like I am punching a brick wall when I am just trying to understand what’s up. But then again people critique me for being too malleable often so I have my own issues to deal with.