i think several of the friction points people have is because the binary is so rigid and we’re trying to add identities back into a (european christian) system that deliberately obliterated everything else over centuries.

the framework has begun to understand what to do with blatantly nonbinary NBs but it doesn’t have roles or archetypes (? idk terms, like butch is a subgenre of woman distinct in presentation and role from the hegemonic default) yet, and it just pushes binary-passing NBs into the binary which delegitimizes us.

this legitimacy thing wouldn’t come up if these people had a well-established notion of nonbinary genders, read a book, or had slightly more empathy.