I love sleeping, honk-shoo is so goated.
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This makes it a lot better. I’ve felt exactly like you described for as long as I can remember. I’ve always felt like I was memorizing a book of rules on how to be a man. I’ve always thought that’s all I could be. Everyone in this thread has more understanding of how I feel than I’ve ever experienced before.
I’m afraid of everything. I think I’m terrified to actually be trans. It’s not an easy or quick process. I don’t know how I could exist in my world in that way. It doesn’t seem possible in my life. Which means I’ll always feel this schism until I rectify it.
I’m already a failure and disappointment to my old tradional parents. I don’t feel welcome at family gatherings now and don’t go but I could never go again.
It explains so many of my thoughts, feelings, the things that bother me. Obviously I wish I had been born a girl but I wasn’t. Life is a prison.
Is this why I’ve never ever liked any part of how I looked? I can’t embrace any of it. I hate my body so much.
This is extremely real. I started using she/her pronouns on here years ago but didn’t work up the nerve to actively take steps in my real life until a month ago, mostly out of fear of how hard it is. Even now I’ve accepted it will be months and years before I see any major changes and that the dangers are way greater for me and my partner. Being a big man is a shield. Being a big woman can be a target if people want to be assholes.
I felt so bad staying in that mode that I was drinking heavily to cope with what I now know was dysphoria. After I got sober, it became overwhelming. It hasn’t been easy telling people close to me. It’s been really hard to seek out medical treatment re hormones. But the relief I feel from picking a side in the schism is palpable, even though the only steps I’ve taken so far are mental.
Nobody here will tell you exactly how to feel. There are so many variations within the trans experience that nobody’s dysphoria will present identically. I coped with the bodily discomfort through apathy and disassociation, telling myself I didn’t particularly care about my body or clothes to avoid having to face how I really felt.
ButAnd also saying the phrase “I wish I had been born a girl but wasn’t” can be a pretty solid indicator that you may have a non-cis identity. Did you check out that website another user had posted?https://turn-me-into-a-girl.com/
I’ve gone to the site a few times now. I like how it makes me feel. It’s terrifying and difficult to accept too. I’ve cried a lot today. It’s like my whole world has been turned upside down.
Yeah it can be a little earth shattering. Luckily you’ve got at least one supportive community here. The site is just a test, like the button test, it’s not definitive, it’s more about your personal reaction to the words you’re reading, so I’m glad it resonated. It’s scary, it’s draining, it’s terrifying. Every day I bounce between excited and freaked out at what I’m doing, but I managed to book my HRT appointment today! I hope the process can bring you some comfort amid the other scary emotions