This doesn’t happen to me much, but it happens to other women I know. I have a lot of male friends and I’ve talked to them over the years about their perspective on feminism, and what makes them say things critical of feminism. A lot of it comes down to a misunderstandings – take for instance the conflation between patriarchy (of a system) and sexism (of an individual). Or “#notallmen” – as women we don’t really care that it’s #notallmen, the fact of the matter is that because it’s enough men, it’s #yesallwomen; whereas to men this sounds like an accusation.

Of course, there’s some things that aren’t about miscommunications and are just philosophical differences. Expressing support for affirmative action, for instance, is likely to get one in hot water, no matter how politely you phrase it.