Not my nails, obvs.
Some (beginner-focused) tips for painting your nails:
Lighter colors and solid colors are easier to work with. Pick a good color or few, you don’t need to start too fancy.
Don’t shake nail polish, that can mess it up. Roll it slowly if you ever need to mix.
Don’t just do the coloration and call it a day, put clear nail polish on first, and put it over the color. That will protect your nails.
Consider getting nail polish remover when you get your nail polish, mistakes are easy.
Put your nails down on a flat surface, clean your nails (maybe with that nail polish remover?), and apply the clear base coat (doesn’t need to be perfect). Stroke from the base of the nail to the top, until the nail is covered. It might get on your skin, that’s normal, anything on your skin can be dealt with at the end. Let it dry, like you would any other kind of base coat.
Now that it’s dry, do like what you did with your clear polish for colors. Base to tip, going from the center outwards. If you can still see through after it’s covered, wait for it to dry a little, then do another layer.
Then apply your top coat to make smooth, shiny, and somewhat protected painted nails. Wait for it all to dry (very important), which could as long as normal working hours + commute. Don’t mess it up. If you do, you might have to restart on some nails.
Now that it’s dry the polish on your skin should act sorta like glue, where you can just peel it off, but if it’s stubborn you could use a cotton swab with nail polish remover to carefully remove it (don’t let it touch your nails!).
Now you should have nice smooth nails.
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guy who is trying desperately to convince his trans son not to get his legal gender marker changed to M while making it abundantly clear that while he does support his son’s transition and views him as a man, they need to keep his legal gender as “F” in order to keep the car insurance payments down
Please never stop posting
I did it chat! I went to a show on my own and had a wonderful time! Anxious as fuck at the beginning but by the end i was doing quite well. Had way too many cigarettes unfortunately… And i had just quit smoking like a month or two ago… But it was one night, im not beating myself up, because i went out and conquored my social anxiety!!
Be proud of me hexbear, ya girl did good
good pup!!! am so pwouds of uuuuu!!! :D
Yay! Good job
Tyyyy!!
On the behalf of hexbear, I am proud of you 👏 🥰
Wow!!! Good job, Im glad you went~ and it sounds like you didnt even get shut down
Yeah! Apparently the property owners dont really care.
fun facts from my neo-pagan studies:
in some mythologies the Goddess Ishtar would put on makeup and fancy clothes before battle. like she would do this instead of using armor or gearing up.
combat is the “dance of Ishtar” and basically if she blesses you it’s like having a spidey sense. you don’t become supernaturally strong or anything, it’s like being completely in the zone and rolling natural 20s
but yeah she’s a fucking queen i love it. (so paint your nails before war)
more fun facts to come i’ve been doing research and plan on getting some books on Mesopotamian mythology
She’s just like me frfr
she’s so cool
yeah lately i’ve been like “is this what faith feels like”
Last night, we had a patient who is a woman and her nurse was a dude. She wanted to be placed on a bedpan. She didnt want the guy to do it, so he came and got me 🥹. And then she said “oh Terminal! Im glad youre here, Ill need help wiping after” (gross but Im glad I passed!)
They gave me a firmer answer finally for bottom surgery! 8 to 12 months lol. Well, it is firmer than “eventually, hopefully within a year”
happy for you
This is the tragedy of Carl Jung—the woman inside of him didn’t burn nearly as bright as the two guys in him.
Well chat, I did it. Told my irl friends my name and asked them to use my pronouns, told them my old ones upset me, etc. One friend has been trying, correcting himself or just outright using the right ones.
She has not however :/ has not gendered or named me correctly, maybe half the time she’s kinda muttered off like, oh yea… Sorry… After dead naming me or smth. But doesn’t use the right ones after. Obviously today was only day one but idk. That’s where we’re at.
To make things a bit more awkward, I ha e the same name as one of her old friends, idk if that’s why she doesn’t want to use it or what. She’s generally not super woke either. Idk.
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god fucking damn it I hate this ts. Need to fucking shave too. If only I’d just been born… you know…
Im proud of you for telling them! Its super daunting and you doing it shows your courage and bravery in the face of a transphobic world
that was very brave. We can’t control other people but we can choose our own destiny and you chose yourself and I love that for you so much. Hopefully your friend will come around!
Sometimes I would like to retreat into a queer country, with no cishets allowed. No more bullshit.
The bullshit would follow you, even there, I do fear…
After one single generation, the straights would outnumber the queers again.
I dunno, straightness might be a social construct. Or maybe at least not as dominant as an orientation as its presented anyway. Way more people are somewhere between the two poles of the Kinsey scale (and in Queer Country/Commune, its only the one tick of the Kinsey scale that matters anyway). Historically, being straight wasnt like a thing. You might have had to make a family, that was a thing, but you could do whatever else. Maybe living in a queer commune your entire life makes people more likely to be bi or pan even if they can only make another generation of babies the ol fashioned way.
I think you’d have more problems with people bringing in that shit to start with, cause we can’t really help but be influenced by the hegemonic culture we grew up in and that cultural inheritence has a lot of gross shit.
I keep bumping into shit with my hips at work on accident. Guess I’m thicker down there than my mind realizes
I bought a bunch of scrubs before nursing school for prep for clinicals. That was 5 years ago, I dont fit any of em. Butt and hips and breasts too big. What a waste, wish I could have handed em off to someone going the other way.
Taking my trans woman friend shopping today. It’s her first time potentially wearing/buying women’s clothes. What type of store should we go to? First thought was the pro-trans vintage clothing store I like and letting her raid my male/androgynous closet (have some women’s shirts in her size, as a baby step). Also the local trans org has a community closet, I thought that would be more chill than being in a public store.
Pre hormones, pre everything. She’s black if it matters for recommendations, around age 30. She has not tried cosmetics yet, either.
Additional info: In men’s sizes she wears large T-shirts. Approx 6 ft tall.
As far as style, she has said her eventual goal is to look/dress as feminine as possible. I haven’t gotten much more info.
Definitely do the vintage and org, those two are great environments to start acclimating yourself in. I’d probably do a check-in after those two to ask if she’d like to try going to any actual stores in person or if she’s content and then follow her lead and bring her to a mall or smth
Regarding sizing, general rule of thumb is a women’s size is a men’s size +1, so she’s probably extra large or in the plus sizes depending on her exact measurements, so anything in those sections ought to be okay I think. Admittedly I am tiny (women’s small) so I have little experience with the higher end of women’s sizes so ymmv.
General unedited recommendations for clothing: if she gets any skirts make sure she tries them on high waisted (at the thinnest part of her waist, a bit above the bellybutton usually) since that helps with making a femme figure and also just looks good imo, neutral colours are a good starting place but she can do whatever she likes, avoiding 90° angles in sleeves is helpful to make shoulders appear less broad, and I’d recommend pushing her to pici up some accessories along with the clothing, I neglected them for a while but they also really help with feeling euphoric.
Can’t help with makeup I only just started doing mine literally last week and I started with goth makeup lol.
Thanks!
How lovely that you’re helping your friend it’s going to make things so much less scary for her!
The options you mentioned are all really good. You didn’t specify size but I can say that Torrid is a godsend for the tall and plus sized girl. Old Navy has super cheap tv shirts that are really cute. Most of my wardrobe is from Goodwill, I live by one and it’s consistently full of treasure.
Yeah I think showing up is the most important thing! Thank you for the advice.
My thought was that Goodwill might be intimidating because it’s so wide open and exposed, but undoubtedly there are wonderful clothes to find there. Budget is definitely a major consideration, though.
down with cis
Down with cis
Down with cis
down with cis
down with cis
down with cis
The megathread probably shouldn’t be started off to such a negative tone, but I’ve been putting off putting my feelings into words for too long.
CW: sui
I’ve been thinking about death, and my own death way too much recently. I even had a vivid dream where I was forced go drown myself at gunpoint. I feel as if I wasn’t built for living, and that I don’t really care about being alive as much as I am just afraid of dying.
I genuinely believe that this is the result of all the wars and fascism in the world right now. I feel like sooner rather than later, I too will be on the chopping block. My only options are to repress myself and live, or to assert myself and die. And in either case, there are no guarantees.
I tell myself that the closet does not provide me safety. It’s 4 walls surrounding my heart will not protect me from bombs or fascists. So I should just be myself. But then all I am telling myself is that my life will be short regardless of what I do. And that isn’t very comforting.
Basically, in a round about sort of way, my brain is forcing me to confront my own mortality. I don’t like this. I’m not even 25. My thoughts are too jumbled and I have no answers.
Get a load of this girlfailuire and her dumb hormonal outbursts
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I don’t have any advice or anything but I’m in the same boat and know how it is. I’m sorry.
Sucks that you are feeling the same way. You deserve better.
You too comrade :meow-hug:
I love my gf.
Also check this shirt::
Been helping my sibling with their subcutaneous injections, it’s not hormones but I think I got the gist of it. My sibling is real squeamish when it comes to needles and stuff and so far they mentioned I’ve done a real painless job helping them.
